An Ageless Circuit

Our relationship with our kids is like breath. It’s a timeless cycle. In this particular point in time, we take in the focused awareness of the other. This inward breath is promptly followed by the moment when we exhaled ourselves back into the other in a similar expression of being there. How fulfilling that cycle can be, for it is existence, the timeless experience of joy to us and our kids in the moment.

If we don’t inhale and exhale, we perish. But we forget that it truly is exactly the same with our associations. They only exist in the ebb and flow of shared affection every moment. Too many of us interact with our children in a mindless way. We “listen” but our thoughts are engaging a million worries for the future. We speak, but our words are hollow, for we are dwelling on a thousand past grievances. This is the 1st step toward a child crisis.

We are with our kids but our spirits are not there. It seems as if we are respiring but we are suffocating. So our relationships die. And they are so much like breath, that we die when they die.

Eternity exists in the here and now. It is our present breath or relationship. It lives inside the reciprocation of that respiration. If we aren’t there , living is like a ghost. It spooks us yet it really isn’t there.

Being there in our relationships with our kids draws us into the moment where forever exists. As it enmeshes our hearts, we taste the cool drafts of forever and discover whispers of wonder and intelligence over and above . This respiration floods our kid’s lonesome spirits. It is euphoric, inexpressible maybe, like a mother looking into her baby’s eyes.

Respiration is similar to a relationship, the one we have with our children. It clasps us in present reality. There, thoughtfully centering our full awareness on our child, we discover existence and reality, and soften or prevent a child crisis. There, in a instant of breath, we blend as one-and enter eternity.